To all the singles out there (me included) we’re most probably hoping to settle down and get married someday, yeah? We’re working hard to earn money for our so-called future. We’re daydreaming of the day when we get to meet our special other and have that magical love story with him/her. We’re competing on something I’d like to call the Wedding Olympics.
This entry has been inspired by the Single life that I’m living and the urge to marry. It is also inspired by the book “When God Writes Your Love Story” by Eric and Leslie Ludy.
“Listen, kid. A gold medal is a wonderful thing. But if you aren’t enough without it, believe me, you’ll never be enough with it.” – The coach in the movie ‘Cool Runnings’
It’s not something to set your eyes on
Sometimes we make it the goal of our lives to get settled and rich and to have a nice, secure job and start a family. It becomes a big milestone in our lives. Getting married and settling down has become more of a goal in our lives than we think. And oftentimes this goal we have overshadows our bigger vision of living for God or serving Him and shining our light for Him in this dark, dreary world.
Yes finding a spouse is important and getting married and settling down is outright desirable and very exciting. It’s just that we shouldn’t set our eyes on it so much so that we make God’s plan for us a fallback net to catch us when we lose in the Wedding Olympics.
The gold medal will never make us enough
It was never meant to make us enough. Getting married and settling down is great! It is a wonderful thing. But once you make it your end-goal, hoping that it would make you ‘enough’, you are dead wrong. You will only be disappointed when you find out that once you get there, it isn’t enough for you.
Only Christ can make you enough
If you aren’t enough now without a spouse, do you think getting married will satisfy that? Do you think a wedding can make you ‘enough’? I don’t think so. Just look at all the divorces taking place. A marriage is never meant to make you enough or complete. It is meant for companionship in life, not for filling up that longing for eternity and purpose in you.
So before you pray and seek God’s plan for your life in the aspect of marriage, do your best to abide in Him and develop your relationship with Him. Make yourself ‘enough’ now in Christ so that even when you get into marriage, you would already have been enough in the first place – and in that sense, you can help your spouse become ‘enough’ if he or she isn’t already so. But I would, of course, advise that you look for someone who is also already ‘enough’ by him or herself. Be wise in all of your decisions and lift them all up in prayer to God.