Why you can’t tell me that you “Fell” in love and you can’t control it.

A lot of people say “I’m in love, I can’t fight it.” Or “I feel for her. I think I’m going crazy” or “This is love. I know it! I’m in love!”

Love is more than just emotions

Love is more than just emotions

Often times, people tell me that they’re in love and it feels so good or so right. They tell me “This is IT”. The moment that they’re sure “it’s love” and they can’t “fight it” or “control it” I know exactly what’s happening.

The moment you lose control of yourself and claim that it’s “love” – it’s not. Why? Because the nature of love is something that is controlled. The reason you say you can’t control it is because what you’re feeling is all EMOTION and you’ve dug yourself too deeply into it, you can’t get out.

Emotion within love is good but love within emotion is dangerous. When the “love” you claim to have is all emotion, it is not love at all but feelings that serves your sensuality. Yes it feels good and at some point it might “feel right” but when you look at it, it is self-serving, incomplete and dangerous.

Some people go to the point of obsession when they feel this kind of “love” towards another person. They would usually want the other person to reciprocate their feelings. And when rejected, they get so discouraged and the “Feeling” betrays them – it goes the other way and hurts you. Most people, when rejected, face it like a little child who was denied a toy he/she craves for. It’s not a pretty picture isn’t it? It’s a bratty and selfish image. You might tell me “I’m not like that” and I’ll tell you “Sure”.

I don’t like to argue especially when you’re in the middle of the “feeling” because people who are so deep in their emotions don’t listen.

Emotions can be dangerous

Emotions can be dangerous

So what’s wrong with being too deep in your “Feelings”? If you still don’t know, emotions come and go. One moment you’re head-over-heels about her, wanting her every attention, the next minute when you find out something about her that you don’t like, your feelings drop to zero. Feelings are very, very dangerous. Feelings make you say things you don’t really mean, it makes you commit to things you’re not really capable of fulfilling, feelings make you hold promises you can’t really keep. Emotion is a double-edged sword.

So the next time you think you’re in love and you can’t fight it, search your heart. Is it really love? Or just emotions? Love is wanting the best for the other person, it is commitment, it is unconditional – exemplified only by God Himself. Don’t reduce God to a feeling.

Comments

  1. binsuy says

    hi sean! I agree with everything with what you’ve posted here. Pope John Paul II also said that love is not a feeling, but an act of our will, always preferring the well-being of others above ourselves. :)

  2. h3sean says

    Hey Bins!!!! =D Kamusta na???? Yeah I definitely agree with that description =)
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  3. h3sean says

    Thanks!
    Woooow congratulations Bins!!! Galingan mo sa trabaho! Ako naman may thesis at ojt pa =D
    Madami pa naman sigurong trabaho dyan? =)

  4. h3sean says

    Hahaha thanks Zac =)) I can only express myself well because I myself have gone through this XD And having got out of it and learned from it, it is my responsibility to share to others – otherwise God will hold me accountable of withholding wisdom.

    “Love” is only blind if the one claiming to be “in love” is using emotion as his/her sight. That’s not real love. It’s the selfish kind of love – therefore the blindness.

    Also I prefer not to be called dr love =)) coz I’m not XD
    thanks Zac!

  5. If Austin is Sean's #1 fan, then im #2..XD says

    You hit the bull’s eye once again, sean…=)

    Emotions and love are things that are misunderstood by many teens and young adults (uuuuyy, pasok pa tayo dun!! Hahahaha) especially without God’s help.. At the same time this is the years where hormones are raging..

    So we really need His help when it comes to love and emotions. We need His guidance and wisdom when it comes to discerning if what we are feeling is love or just emtions running like crazy…=) more people should be able to read this..

    (clap clap clap clap clap) galing nyo ni Lord…XD

  6. h3sean says

    Thanks Anj!!! XD
    Yeah we need God to know if it’s really love and at the same time we need to ask ourselves “Is it the best for the other person if I enter in a relationship with him/her now?” That’s the key.

    And yes, pasok pa tayo dun. HAHAHAHA!

  7. binsuy says

    It’s a bit harder to look for jobs here. I can’t find any ads, wala din expos. I’m asking my uncle and my dad for help nga eh, hehe.

  8. Mr Sparrow says

    Really? love’s nature is something that is controlled? So was it your choice to fall in love to that person in the first place? And yes, love is all just emotion, brother, and it is meant to be felt, what else. Emotion within love and love within emotion are just the same thing. It turning out good or dangerous depends on what you decide to do with that emotion. Love is a force of nature, it’s supposed to be free not contained. It’s not about demanding or having control to the other person. Love is not ownership. Relationships starts to fail when one forces love or controls it.

    Rejection is also all emotion and a natural thing. It also depends on the person what he would want to do with that emotion. It’s like ‘pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional’ kind of thing.

    Not all people don’t listen when they’re ‘deeply’ in love, and they have reasons for that. Maybe one of the reasons is that they think they just actually know better than the one claiming to know love. But it think it’s better not to argue, the self-proclaimed love guru, once his ego got hurt, would only see his belief as the only right thing in the universe and probably won’t listen, too.

    I agree, emotions come and go. But my friend, if you still don’t know, it is a pleasure to tell you that love has stages, it grows with time. Call it love only when you can accept the other person for who she really is. If you can’t then maybe that’s just something else maybe infatuation or lust, which are also feelings or emotions. Feelings are not dangerous, i’ll say it again that it’s always up to the person what he’ll do about it. WE HAVE A CHOICE.

    I don’t know about you but I think you keep blaming emotion and making it a bad thing so that you can glorify your god. It is one thing to praise your god, but it’s completely another thing to be stupid. I’ll say it again that feelings are not very dangerous as what you say it is, they just as powerful as what you think your god is. Savvy?

  9. h3sean says

    Good point, argument and philosophy for someone who doesn’t know anything about God and who doesn’t read the Bible (based on how you keep on bashing my belief with your argument)

    I must say, I hope you have more control over your use of words, but I guess your emotions over this topic got the better of you for you to reply as you have.

    Yes we do have a choice, and I’m only telling it the way that most people, not all, are experiencing this specific topic in their lives. If you think most people don’t struggle with emotions, then you have to go out some more to see what’s really happening with our world today. So many people are hurting and others are consummating it through premarital sex or other ways to instantly gratify their desires and emotions.

    I am not, in any way, blaming emotion. It is good and it has a purpose but it must only be used within the right parameters which is how God designed it. How do you know how this design goes? Read the Bible.

    My advice for you, sir, is to read the Bible first before you bash your way through this blog without any knowledge of the context of the things I”m talking about. To do otherwise would be utterly and pitifully, foolish.

    And yes, we are savvy. =)

    • ruthie says

      The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? -Jeremiah 17:9
      Emotions can deceive…that’s why we should guard our heart always..by God’s grace! Thanks for this blog. I’m learning a lot :) I’m even sharing this post to our life group in FB. God bless you!

      • Sean says

        hey Ruthie,
        Wow thanks for sharing it to your live group! I’m so glad that this entry has somehow influenced you in guarding your heart :) God bless you Ruthie!

  10. h3sean says

    “And yes, love is all just emotion, brother, and it is meant to be felt, what else. Emotion within love and love within emotion are just the same thing. ”

    And we wonder why there are so many couples filing for divorce and annulment in our world today.
    Indeed if love is all just emotion for you, I pity your wife or wife-to be because when gravity takes a hold of her body and her looks and beauty fades away, your emotions will all go flying with it and I’m pretty sure you’re going to claim “I don’t love you anymore” and you are going to think that you are right. I’m not a prophet, but based on your way of thinking, I can already tell this is pretty much going to be the scenario in your life when you start to engage in your idea of “love”

  11. Mr Sparrow says

    Don’t worry, I know about your god and have read about the Bible. But unlike you, my friend, I don’t limit my philosophy on what’s written there. One doesn’t need to read the bible first to know romantic love.

    My apologies if my words seem to have hurt your sensitive feelings, I’ll try my best not to this time.

    I respect your point of view being a person of God and I know that the things you write here are based on the Bible and somehow based on experience, like most writers who give advice to their readers. For one to have passion like you do talking about desire gratifications and premarital sex, tells something about one’s experience.

    On my first reply, I thought you’re referring to emotions in general. But now it’s clear to me that it only pertains to lust. My bad.

    However, I still I don’t agree with your reasoning that love should be controlled, and if one cannot, what he’s feeling is all lust. The feeling of love should be expressed freely and it is lust that needs control.

    Sex happens out of love or lust, which is both a good thing if it’s mutual. It only became an issue because some people do it without the sacrament of marriage which some people sees as a requirement. Whether premarital sex is morally right or wrong is just a matter of one’s perspective. If one will see it through the bible, it’s morally wrong for it requires the sacrament of marriage first. But not everyone sees it the same way, people have different beliefs. It isn’t premarital sex in the first place if one doesn’t believe in marriage.

    But whether it’s morally right or wrong, or whether it’s out of love or lust, I think people are responsible enough for themselves to decide on their own and engage in such activity.Yes, I know most people are hurting and others practice premarital sex. But it is their choice to do that, it’s not rape or something, get over it. Whatever the consequences will be, they deserve it. They will learn and that will make them better persons.

    Feelings would only make one say things he doesn’t mean, hold promises he can’t really keep, if he wanted to take advantage. And if one feels the desire to have sex, it doesn’t necessarily mean he isn’t really in love with his partner.

    I know you would not understand things outside the box your bible has created but I hope you’ll open your mind and learn things that your bible can’t teach you.

  12. Mr Sparrow says

    Sorry but my definition of ‘emotion’ is not just lust unlike you. If you want to know what emotion really means, go here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotion
    And, um, it’s not just lust, Mr. Know-it-all. go here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_emotions

    With that definition, I’m sure I won’t marry someone all because of lust. I’m sorry to disappoint you, love is more than skin deep for me. With your idea that love should be controlled, I think it’s you who will end up with getting a divorce, my friend.

    Please, do yourself a favor, don’t be vague. You’re confusing your readers.

  13. h3sean says

    You just gave links to prove your own contradictions.
    And statements that contradict your first arguments.
    Again, think first before posting any arguments.

    I believe I do not want to argue further with someone who contradicts himself. More so with someone who does not pick his words carefully and indulges in topics with his tongue stuck to his ego.

    There is a terminology for people who are much like you and we all know what it is. Thank you for voicing out your thoughts here. You might wanna join the forums too.

  14. h3sean says

    “Don’t worry, I know about your god and have read about the Bible. But unlike you, my friend, I don’t limit my philosophy on what’s written there. One doesn’t need to read the bible first to know romantic love. ”

    Well it sure don’t seem like you know Him by the way you keep on typing “your god”
    And you sure don’t seem like you read the Bible by the way you talk and argue.

    “My apologies if my words seem to have hurt your sensitive feelings, I’ll try my best not to this time. ”
    You’re doing a mighty well job, ableit, sarcastically.

    Thank you for your respect for me and my beliefs and my opinions even if that respect isn’t founded on a well-meant way.

    And no, I am sure I’m talking about emotions and feelings and not lust, thank you. I believe I know my dictionary well, sir.

    About love being controlled, okay, let’s say I’m wrong. Try asking around your neighborhood, see who’s a Christian and tell me what their answers are. Do this in all honesty and not in any biased sort of way. It’s the evidence and the results that speak for themselves not the theories and philosophies.

    “Sex happens out of love or lust, which is both a good thing if it’s mutual.”
    This is exactly why our world today is in it’s present condition – because of mindsets such as this.

    “Whether premarital sex is morally right or wrong is just a matter of one’s perspective.”
    From this statement, I believe you are a person who doesn’t believe in absolute truth.

    “Whatever the consequences will be, they deserve it. They will learn and that will make them better persons.”
    My blog is to help people avoid these consequences not to encourage them to go through it.

    “Feelings would only make one say things he doesn’t mean, hold promises he can’t really keep, if he wanted to take advantage.”
    I don’t believe so. Even if he didn’t want to take advantage, his feelings can affect his judgment and decision-making.

    “And if one feels the desire to have sex, it doesn’t necessarily mean he isn’t really in love with his partner.”
    … Sure… I have no words to express myself in saying how wrong you are. Only men who have no respect for women have the guts to say this.

    “I know you would not understand things outside the box your bible has created but I hope you’ll open your mind and learn things that your bible can’t teach you.”
    You have no idea what I’ve been through.

    If the things “outside the box” are dangerous and foolish, then what reason is there for me to indulge myself in it? I’d rather hold on to God and the Bible. Based on your philosophy and argument I can say that you’ve never really been “in the box”. You’ve never really understood the Bible. The evidence of your posts show it.

  15. Charles says

    Muka madalas ang love ah, LOL. Really has something to do with being prepared din— like what you blog on your last entry about unprepared.

  16. h3sean says

    Yeah =) it has a lot to do with being prepared. Oo nga eh napapadalas =)) dibale mamaya hndi na love XD
    Thanks Charles!!!

  17. Bennett says

    Nice Sean! I totally agree! Love is more than a feeling! It is in fact a LooooOOOooOoOOOOoong suffering you are willing to endure.

  18. Kath says

    i also agree with you Sean, i believe na hindi porke ginagawa ng nakararami eh tama na sya…..dapt walang “whether” it should be definite…you really can not please everybody but its ok…ganun tlga…

  19. h3sean says

    Right =D glad you know what’s right about this Kath!
    Actually I appreciate him stating his views here para makita ng lahat yung answers sa views na parehas sa kanya =)

  20. Mr Sparrow says

    “Well it sure don’t seem like you know Him by the way you keep on typing “your god”
    And you sure don’t seem like you read the Bible by the way you talk and argue.”

    My friend, I address your GOD “your GOD” because I don’t believe in your christian GOD. There’s fine line between knowing and believing. Oh, if your basis on knowing if a person reads the bible is by the way they talk and argue, take one good look around again. Not every ‘Christian’ in this world talks and argue like you do but I don’t judge them and their religion in particular. I know that there are lots of aspects that makes a person’s character other than religion.

    “You’re doing a mighty well job, ableit, sarcastically
    Thank you for your respect for me and my beliefs and my opinions even if that respect isn’t founded on a well-meant way.”

    If that’s how you think of it, well I can’t do anything about that. But you’re welcome.

    “And no, I am sure I’m talking about emotions and feelings and not lust, thank you. I believe I know my dictionary well, sir.”

    Oh really it isn’t lust? “When the “love” you claim to have is all emotion, it is not love at all but feelings that serves your sensuality. Yes it feels good and at some point it might “feel right” but when you look at it, it is self-serving, incomplete and dangerous.”

    I’m sorry but was the kind of emotion you’re talking about there ‘joy’? ‘anger’, perhaps? What emotion that leads to sex? was it ‘disappointment’? Yeah, maybe it’s not ‘lust’.

    “About love being controlled, okay, let’s say I’m wrong. Try asking around your neighborhood, see who’s a Christian and tell me what their answers are. Do this in all honesty and not in any biased sort of way. It’s the evidence and the results that speak for themselves not the theories and philosophies.”

    You’re making me laugh. Why only christians? Not too one-sided answers, are they?
    The Bible was written by the same people who said the Earth was Flat.
    The misconception that people (regardless of their religion) have about love is, they think they own their partners. They want control over the other, they want insurance. That’s why they make their partners promise them something. Love, if true, needs no contracts, no control, for their partners will do it in their will. Love is two free people wanting the best for each other.

  21. Mr Sparrow says

    “This is exactly why our world today is in it’s present condition – because of mindsets such as this.”

    You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 61. Who can say what age you have to be to find your true love?
    I’m just being a realist here. Do you really think that people in love, even the married ones, have sex ALWAYS because of love?
    Our world is in its condition today because not all people have mindsets like yours and mine as well.

    “From this statement, I believe you are a person who doesn’t believe in absolute truth.”
    I know about absolute truth, I just don’t believe in it. But what I said is true, isn’t it? For a Christian person, it is morally wrong. But if one’s a Buddhist or Hindu, he wouldn’t even think it’s wrong.

    “My blog is to help people avoid these consequences not to encourage them to go through it.”
    I know you want to help people out, but I suggest, if I may, don’t whitewash. You talk about consequences like it’s only a bad thing to go through. Emotions can bring good consequences, too, you know.

    love for example:
    It is a risk to love.
    What if it doesn’t work out?
    Ah, but what if it does?

    Again, everything is just a matter of perspective, regardless of one’s religion.

    “I don’t believe so. Even if he didn’t want to take advantage, his feelings can affect his judgment and decision-making.”
    I respect your opinion. But that’s the nature of feelings: it can affect one’s judgment and decision-making. BUT then again, we always have a choice between doing something good or bad. It’s up to us what to do on a particular emotion.

    “And if one feels the desire to have sex, it doesn’t necessarily mean he isn’t really in love with his partner.”
    … Sure… I have no words to express myself in saying how wrong you are. Only men who have no respect for women have the guts to say this.

    Sorry about that but that wasn’t what I meant, let me rephrase.
    If one feels lust towards his partner, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not in love with his partner.

  22. Mr Sparrow says

    You have no idea what I’ve been through.
    If the things “outside the box” are dangerous and foolish, then what reason is there for me to indulge myself in it? I’d rather hold on to God and the Bible. Based on your philosophy and argument I can say that you’ve never really been “in the box”. You’ve never really understood the Bible. The evidence of your posts show it.

    Yeah, I know that feeling, the feeling like you’ve been the only one in the world to have wandered through the darkness that much. You turned to a ‘Christian’ god, I began looking on to things from a different perspective.

    Dangerous and foolish are relative. I’m not asking you to indulge yourself in, I’m only suggesting that it’s not a crime to have an open mind, one that still believes in your Christian god and bible but doesn’t limit itself to the Christian god and bible.
    And why should my argument need something about inside the box? Must I put rationales that I don’t believe in anymore in my arguments to be able to justify that I once understood the bible but don’t believe it now?

  23. Mr Sparrow says

    Let’s go back.

    Indeed if love is all just emotion for you, I pity your wife or wife-to be because when gravity takes a hold of her body and her looks and beauty fades away, your emotions will all go flying with it and I’m pretty sure you’re going to claim “I don’t love you anymore” and you are going to think that you are right. I’m not a prophet, but based on your way of thinking, I can already tell this is pretty much going to be the scenario in your life when you start to engage in your idea of “love”.

    Thanks for that statements, I misinterpreted your idea of love to lust. I really thought you were just using the word ‘emotion’ to cover a ‘kind of emotion’ named lust because it really makes sense.
    “If love is all just lust for you I pity your wife-to be”
    “When gravity takes a hold of her body and her beauty fades, your lust will all go flying away and I’m sure you’ll say ‘I don’t love you anymore’ ”

    I’ll stick with my argument: love is all just an emotion, meant to be felt and expressed. ain’t love an emotion? don’t people feel it? Is love as an emotion only temporary? Is love as an emotion impossible to last?

    Love is too powerful an emotion that’s why people think of love as more than feelings.
    Emotions come and go. But if that love as emotion stays with you and gets stronger everyday, that’s when you know you’re in love.

    If I view love as an emotion, what makes you think that I’ll leave my wife-to be when her beauty fades away? Would that hinder me to see her inner beauty? Does love as an emotion make it impossible for me to realize true love? You’re being foolish.

  24. h3sean says

    Again, the contradiction in your argument. If love is an emotion and emotions come and go in it’s unstable nature, then it is indeed impossible to last.

    You have views and philosophies that are clinging to the world. To it’s norms and flows, to it’s practices and claims. Your person is that of a worldly man. And I really hope that someday you’ll turn to the option of God and the Bible again – and this time REALLY READ IT and REALLY TRY TO UNDERSTAND it. Because we can read and say we’re “Christians” and make Jesus our “Lord” But live our lives like we have no Lord/ no God.

    And if you think I’m being foolish, then again I’ll say “sure”
    As I’ve said, I prefer not to argue with someone who doesn’t want to listen. Of course, I’ll ask you to refer to Christians because I’m a Christian and the only reason why you don’t agree with my views is because I’m a Christian who isn’t going with the way the world is going, in fact, I am against the world even if I still sin and fall at times, my direction is not going towards the world. My advice seem like nonsense to you because of our differences.

    It’s not because of our differences in religion, it’s because of our difference in our relationship with God. My relationship with God changed me as a person and I can’t take it away from myself anymore so as to agree with the arguments you’ve provided. Your relationship with God might not have even started, hence, the conflict.

    But still, I really thank you for posting your ideas here and for commenting. At least my readers now know the answers to the arguments you’ve posted. Thanks man. I hope you join the forums too!

  25. Chocklit Gangsta says

    Hi, I read the debate between h3sean and Mr Sparrow, I started reading with a neutral ground. But please, PLEASE, I must beg h3sean to refrain from using statements like “REALLY READ IT and REALLY TRY TO UNDERSTAND” and/or “You’ve never really understood the Bible”. If you wanted us to understand you point, please do explain what you think of the particular part of the Bible that relates to the topic instead of answering a thought with a fault.

    Now let me try to understand where this is heading, h3sean simply draws an idea of how feelings can be dangerous and that love is to be controlled. I understand how Christians think/believe this is so because many parts of the Bible did actually and literally “orders” us to love God (check Mark 12:30). This I want h3sean to rebut, define to me the Bible’s definition of “Love” here as you understand it and explain to me how it is possible for us to force ourselves to love God if love, as a general language and as Mr. Sparrow had said, is a free and uncontrollable feeling. (Haha, please do not misunderstand Mr. Sparrow and me, we DO want and ARE listening to your arguments that’s why we are posting questions to you for us to either be more enlightened or confused).

    As for Mr. Sparrow, I really enjoyed your rebuttals although please refrain from adding insult to argument, I’m sure I do not have to explain why. I want you to expound your idea of “outside the box”, because as far as I know, this debate doesn’t seem to go outside the box at all. Most of it are simply a very lax attitude about love on one side and a very exaggerated attitude about premarital sex on the other.

    Don’t get me wrong people, I am simply suggesting and requesting some points so this exchange of words can be more orderly

  26. h3sean says

    Hey!
    Yeah I think I should really expound more on what part of the Bible my argument stands but it’s going to be too long because I’d have to explain the context. Anyhow, that’s my fault. Discussions like these should be taken to the forums coz the comments here are getting too long haha!

    Hmm… You might think that love being controlled and “ordered” is tough to swallow – and if you put it that way, it really is because it’s pictured as “forced”. Love comes from an internal genuine change that manifests itself in outward obedience. Paul’s definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13 gives a powerful example of what love is.

    Emotions and feelings is a part of love as we feel it towards a person. But I believe that love can exist even without the “feelings” You might be angry at another person and yet still love that person (take the example of you and your parents)

    That’s the kind of love I’m talking about. In the greek language it’s “Agape” or unconditional love. I’m trying to make this as simple as I can. Love in general has been twisted into something as an emotional and sensual norm. It is not (as declared in 1 Cor.13) and my previous arguments have already explained that quite bluntly. I appreciate your concern and your getting us in track with the topic at hand.

    If I didn’t answer your question well, just post again XD or post it in the forums. It’s late and my mind’s not running too well now. Thank you for reading and commenting!!!

  27. Chocklit Gangsta says

    Hahaha, take your time resting before answering my questions, I’m not in a hurry for answers.

    So what you are trying to say is that love is actually on a different category from all the other feelings, but the way you differentiate it is by providing an example wherein love is present even when other emotions are on control. But isn’t it also same with other emotions? I can feel angry, at the same time jealous (e.g, say you lose on a bet) I can feel jealous at the same time happy (e.g, When a close friend becomes successful) etc etc…

    Pardon me for being hard-headed but isn’t the Bible want us to love and obey? With its contents, many parts simply requires us to obey first before loving, but on your definition, love comes first before obedience. Agape in the Bible seems more like a self-disciplined dictatorship rather than an autonomous democrasy.

    1 Corinthians 13 simply stated the requirement when a person should have love, and some adjectives about love, Paul didn’t really define love, he simply described it.

    Pardon me for not using the forums, it just seems more comfortable to reply here

  28. h3sean says

    Let me give you an analogy for it to be easier to understand that love should come from the heart

    Suppose you really love your parents. If they tell you to sleep before 10pm (they’re going out for the night and will be arriving late) you’re going to obey. Because you really love them and want to honor and obey them.

    But if you just fear your parents and obey because you’re afraid of the consequences, chances are you would not follow what they said as long as you don’t get caught. You’d play more computer, watch more TV and do some other things you want even if it’s way past 10pm. Because you only fear them and not really love them.

    I hope this example clears things out for you. Real love I think would manifest itself in outward obedience. Trying to make it as simple as I can =)

    It’s okay haha if you find it more comfortable here, that’s fine =D

  29. Chocklit Gangsta says

    But that example of yours is not Agape love anymore is it? It is more or less storge love, again, please explain how come the Bible demands Obedience before love if your claim is that love is the cause of obedience?

  30. h3sean says

    Can you show me the verse which makes you think that the Bible demands obedience before love? Obedience can be possible even without love. But real and complete obedience, I believe, needs to have love as it’s reason and not fear or consequence.

  31. Chocklit Gangsta says

    I don’t know the verse itself but if I simply tell you the phrases, I’m sure you can find them: The calling of Samuel; The burning bush with Moses; The escape of the Israelites from Egypt; maybe there are others which I simply forgot to add here, but you got my point.

  32. Trek says

    “Oh, no! Sean! I’m so into it and I can’t really take it anymore!”
    Nyaha! XD

    @Zac. Flame on! Hah. Kidding.

    Gotta love this blogger. :)

  33. h3sean says

    If we read it from the context of the stories, we can see that these people had the passion to follow God even from the start when they did not know it completely. God looks at the heart and He found these men worthy and sure enough, they kept to what God commanded them – not out of fear, but out of reverence and respect and love for God. I know it might seem vague for you, I can’t tell the whole story here. Try reading it for yourself. Moses, Samuel and all the others would not obey God to the extent of how they did if they did not have that love for Him.

  34. Austin Takahashi says

    About the “debate” between Sean and Mr. Sparrow… BRAIN DRAIN!!! :D Ahahaha!!
    Mejo tinatamad ako magcomment ngayon kc gabi na so Ima talk to you (Sean) nlng about it the next time we meet!! :D:D:D

  35. Angela says

    I believe that those feelings can cloud your judgment the moment you start entertaining them. All of us want to make good decisions based on what is rightfully due to God, but whenever we stumble or commit mistakes in the name of love/feelings/emotions, we must be thankful that God has not forsaken us and did not abandoned us because of His bountiful love and mercy for us :)

    • h3sean says

      Good. I'm glad of your realization Angela! =) thank you for sharing!!!
      Indeed we can misuse love and emotions.
      "to make good decisions based on what is rightfully due to God" – true!

  36. Gail says

    Enjoyed reading this post plus all the comments! Keep them coming, Sean! You’re blog is spiritually stimulating :) God bless you more!

  37. ruthie says

    See how this world distorted the real meaning of love..and often mistaken emotions to love. Thanks for this blog…teenagers should read this more than once!

  38. Precious Jem says

    “Don’t reduce God to a feeling.” What a powerful sentence! Thumbs up for you Sean! I have been reading a number of your blog posts! You are great! =D

    • Sean says

      Hey Precious,
      Thanks for taking time reading God and You. Oh and only God is great – I’m just a messenger :) all glory to Him!

  39. Iamjenicejoy says

    Because the nature of love is something that is controlled! Such a revelation to me, i can connect it to Bible’s definition of love, Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious. Love does not brag, it is not puffed up. -1 Corinthians 13:4, great post! Be blessed.

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