What do women need? Unpreparedness makes the right thing wrong.
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Unpreparedness makes the right thing wrong. When you’re not yet married, you have no claim over the other person. Don’t expect that he/she will reciprocate your feelings – that is selfish. Asking the other person what he/she feels about you, knowing that you won’t marry or don’t have plans to marry that person any time soon, is just plain unnecessary. In fact, it’s a selfish act – it’s to soothe your itching curiosity on how that other person would respond to your emotions. It’s just to satisfy your “feelings”.
Don't make it a wrong thing
Ever had a gimmick or an outing and you left something very important because you didn’t prepare well beforehand? It ruins the whole trip doesn’t it?
Don’t desire a relationship when you know you can’t go all the way. It is selfish and unwise and it will end up hurting you both. Marriage demands far more than you can possibly know or imagine and the world today pushes us to unpreparedness. That is why relationships come crashing down, why hearts are broken, why discouragement is rampant, why families get shattered. Such a subtle thing right? Unpreparedness?
Men, don’t ask for a woman’s heart when you know you cannot yet fully meet her needs in all aspects. What does she need?
She needs someone who is financially capable of supporting her in all her needs
She needs someone who is emotionally stable when push comes to shove and life shakes you
She needs someone who is wise, capable of making the crucial decisions at crunch time
She needs someone who is physically fit so that he can work well and hard for the best possible future while not sacrificing time for the family
She needs someone who is so disciplined with his time that he can give his family quality time while being the best he can be at his work
She needs someone… And the list goes on…
Do you meet the needs? No? Then my advice is for you to keep developing yourself. God will give the go signal and I’m sure you’ll know it when it’s time. As Joshua Harris said in his book “I kissed dating goodbye”, “The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.”
For women, think about it. Don’t give your heart away to someone who’s unprepared – that’s being unprepared too! Pray hard, prepare yourself as well. So that when the right one comes, and he’s all prepared for a relationship, you know you’re all set up for it too!
Make sure that you become the best you can be – not for your future spouse, but for God. Because He will be the one to decide when you’re ready.
I hear you, Sean…
Ang galing tlga ng tandem nyo ni God…=)
God bless you for more readers to come..XD
don’t know what to say but i guess this topic is the exact answer for some questions ringing in my mind for the past weeks…. i really thank the Lord for this….avid reader mo na ko tlga
:D:D…stay happy and God bless!
Hahaha thanks Anj!!! =D you’re one of the one whom God has blessed me with!!!
Really? Wow! I’m so glad you got something out of this entry Kath! Thank you!!! I thank God that He somehow brought you here to gain wisdom =D
God bless you too Kath!
it is
, and i thank you instead…somehow confusion may have gone to the winds……for God led me to read your blogs and some friends too 
“Make sure that you become the best you can be – not for your future spouse, but for God. Because He will be the one to decide when you’re ready.”
soo true.
focus on GOD! 
wow very well said,it’s the basic thing,well structured thing.
as alwys,as usual,
. in any kind of relatiionship,God should be the center of all.that is if you want a lasting relationship.God first before anything else.
Wow, you really hit the spot Sean! this is EXACTLY how i feel. i’ve been thinking of writing something up like this and this article will help me put things into place, because i kinda get tired of explaining over and over again to people why i’m NBSB -_- thanks again and i shall share this!
Thanks Kath!!! this makes my day =D I thank God for you and for your heart to let me know and encourage me.
Hey Alex =D thanks. Yeah I only realized this lately too. I too get emotionally taken away sometimes hahaha! How do we know each other? =D
Yeah true! =D glad to have realized it early so that we won’t make the mistake of hurting other people. God first! Thanks Zac!
Hahaha! Share it! I’d really appreciate it if you do =D so glad you’ve read this article and that it helped you out =) write your thoughts about it! I’m sure you’ll bless other people!!!
I need the print this, tool, you should have one! hahaha, I will give this to my cousin. Mas bagay sa kanya. I’m reserving myself, and will wait for the right thing at the right time.
Hahaha I dunno how to install a print this tool ehhh. I’ll look it up sometime. Maybe there’s an open source code I can embed. Anyway, you can copy paste it naman eh =D haha!
Great! Keep guarding your heart =) glad you made the right choice!
I’m lucky to hear this LIVE!
Hahahahaha XD
the privilege of being my disciple =)) hahaha joke!
I wish to tell this to Jzone someday
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Praise God! =D thanks Anj!
praise God =D I'm so happy =D
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