I am writing this post because i see a lot of posts from women (mostly) about searching for God’s best and everything. Though it is definitely NOT wrong to pray and think about it, it should not be what we are focused on. I believe we, especially women are not made just to find a GB or get married.. and tendency is what I notice in women is that its like their world revolves around marriage. I think this is a big hindrance of what God ‘s plan is for them or even knowing what God’s plan is in the first place.
Webmaster’s Note: This is a brilliant entry by Kettrice Ng who’s message, I think, should be heard by all the single women out there.
And if your thinking “but the time is ticking?” ticking?? is it YOUR TIME OR GOD’S TIME?? remember a day for God can be a thousand for us. HAHA just messing with you. But i like what my pal Sherry A. said, “The whole biological clock is not just about babies. Women don’t see themselves as a prize when they reach a certain age. When a woman takes care of herself she can be sexy in her thirties, forties, fifties and beyond. There is no ‘shelf-life” for marriage.”
So I wondered, why do we want to get married so bad?
So someone can take care of us? God does.
“And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19
Someone to tell us we are beautiful – “We are beautiful cause God made us. God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.” - Genesis 1:31
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.” - Psalm 139:14
Myth: You will feel secure when you’re with someone
Truth: God is our safest haven. God tells us that those who run into His strong tower are safe.
“The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.-” Proverbs 18:10
Myth: No one loves us
Truth: I cannot be separated from the love of God.
“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written:
“For your sake we face death all day long;
we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:35-39
And the list goes on and on.
I am not against marriage at all. Of course it is God’s invention to man and nothing wrong in desiring a husband or wife. What I’m saying is, it can’t be your only goal in life and what you focus on all the time. For both men and women, Marriage should not be one’s ultimate goal in life or it becomes an idol.
There is danger with the multitude of matchmaking web sites, the multitude of books and programs on marriage and the family, and comments by friends and relatives implying one should get married, that results in our putting too much emphasis on marriage rather than on Jesus. Marriage is only one channel of benefiting others, and being married does not guarantee that one will benefit the life of another.
I came to a point in my life when I realized that you don’t need a man to feel fulfilled in life. Actually a partner can cause so much problems when you are not spiritually mature enough or when you’re still not “there” in God’s timetable . It may lead to a lot of befuddlement. Surprisingly, right now marriage doesn’t cross my mind as often anymore, perhaps if there’s someone really special enough and its clear from God that its his time, I would consider it. When i was young i wanted to marry at the age of 23 haha – too early I know.
But i was young then and the more I came close to Christ the more I don’t need someone else.. its just a bonus in life really. Do you agree? Right now in this moment of my existence, I am so content in God that i think no man can make me feel this way. Ever. And I’m writing this note so girls, ladies, women (boys or men) will stop focusing about their prince charming/ damsel in distress. When she/he’ll come in a horse for me I’ll say to that prince: adios!! for I’m still growing and doing my own thing. Go ride off into the sunset and I’ll catch up later…
A partner is just a bonus from God. But don’t rush and don’t ever settle. “And you have been given fullness in Christ, who is the head over every power and authority.” - Colossians 2:10
I am complete in Christ.