Learn to Let Go

Someone once told me, ‘do not hold on to a blessing too tightly that you aren’t willing to let go anymore’. I think there is wisdom with what she said. And don’t we all struggle with that? Especially when we’re blessed with a relationship?

 

Letting go

Letting go is never easy

This entry has been inspired by my relationship with a good friend of mine who ignited this wisdom and experience in me. To you, I give my thanks.

I’ve been blessed with so many friends. And we as human beings experience relationships here and there. It is part of us. We need relationships – it is our design to desire such. And for some part of my life, I’ve been blessed with a special relationship that I was holding on so tightly to.

When a blessing makes you bleed

This relationship was a big blessing in my life. And in fact, it still is. But during the time, I was so stubborn and held on to my relationship with this person too tightly, I didn’t feel my hand was already bleeding and I was suffocating the blessing.

Holding on to a blessing too tightly will dethrone God in your life. Especially if that blessing is a relationship. The one thing that will ever play tug-o-war with God for the throne in your heart is a relationship – whether it be a relationship with a person (which is a two-way relationship), with your tv, computer, books, etc… (the latter ones are one-way relationships) Because what you have with God is a relationship too.

Feeling the loss

And so at some point in time when God sees that you cannot handle the blessing He has given you, He has to take it away. And yes you will excruciatingly feel the pain as God pries your fingers open. You will feel the cuts in your hand begin to bleed. And you will feel the loss – a void in your palm and a void in your heart for you have placed that blessing in the throne of God, committing idolatry.

It is such an irony that when you are willing to let go, God will let the blessing stay for He knows that He still holds Lordship over your life. But when the time comes that you’re holding on a wee bit tighter to that blessing, He’s gonna start telling you “Hey buddy, you better lossen up that grip.”

When the time comes that God needs to pry the blessing away from you, then you know that you have made yourself a captive of that blessing. And instead of a blessing it has become an idol for you. All the idols we make in our lives come from blessings – blessings that has taken the place of God in our hearts. So how do we avoid this? How can we let go?

Set your eyes on the Giver

Letting go

Loosen your grip

How do we avoid idolatry? Check your heart. Is God still the only thing you cannot let go of? Are all other things worthless in light of Him? Is He still your focus? When the answer is no then that’s the time when you have to question the things in which you are fearful to let go of – because it has already taken root in the throne room of God in your life.

How can we let go of a relationship that we have been blessed with? Renew your mind. Always remember that God gives us blessings for a purpose – to bless others with it. If the relationship is not pleasing to God anymore, and if you yourself is not blessed with what is happening, then it’s time to search your heart with where you stand in the relationship. Check your grip. Are you holding on too tightly?

It is not easy to know these things. You need the discernment and wisdom of God. You need to give Him time to tell you this. Often, we are blinded with emotions in this aspect and we need the help of other people whom we can trust and to who we can be accountable with. Ask them for advice. Humble yourself and know that you need it.

And when you know and realize that you are holding on too tight, then you know that you have to let go. Loosen your grip by loosening the relationship with that person in your heart. Meaning, slow down or cut short the communication between the both of you. Relationships grow through communication, so in order to loosen it up, loosen up the communication.

Back off and try to see the relationship in a bigger light. Is it still pleasing to God? Are other people going to be blessed with your relationship with that other person? Maybe it’s time to give the blessing back to God and develop yourself more in order for you to handle it better the next time around.

Check your grip.

Let go. Develop yourself. Wait on God.

  • Mel Chan

    another super blog from the super blogger!
    nice one sean!

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Thanks ahia Mel! :)

  • Mel Chan

    Pahiram ng books ni Seth Godin!

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      I can lend you the Linchpin! I finished it already. I also have it as an ebook in my ipad if i wanna review it :) sige meet tayo for me to lend it to you!

  • Nicole Obligacion

    Nice one, Sean! :) God bless you!

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Hey Nicole! Glad to know you’ve dropped by :) Help me share this with your friends ha :) Thanks! God bless you too!

  • jelai

    Nice! :) ang galing!

  • http://www.ilovehateamerica.com bingkee

    This is a beautiful post. Sadly, nobody understands what it means to let go.

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Hey Bingkee!

      Thanks :) It speaks to a lot of people. And yeah that’s because it’s so darn hard to let go…

  • http://www.twitter.com/mckinleynocon McKinley Nocon

    bro, this really is inspiring.. have to share this to friends.. ^^, more blessings for you.. my prayers are with you that GOD may sustain you with knowledge, wisdom and strength in writing blogs for HIS glory..

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Hey bro,
      Praise God :) Glad you like it. Yes please do share it with your friends. Thank you so much for your prayers. I pray may you apply what you’ve learned in your life!

  • Lon

    Bro, thank God for your posts and Dennis’ (Sy) as well. I feel connected and consider you guys as my “on-line” mentors / Kuyas… even though I haven’t met you or know you guys personally plus I may be older than you LOL .
    The world needs more men like you. Godly men who’s not ashamed to stand, speak and blog for Jesus. Blessings to you. Keep blogging and rocking! You are an inspiration \m/

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Hi Lon,
      Thank you for your kind words and encouragement bro :) Really appreciate it. Praise God for His works on my life and for His works in ahia Dennis’ life. Keep walking with God.

  • Nail

    HI Sean! This is managed by you pala… hehe.. Thanks for the insights! Love your site :) God bless…

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Hi miss Nail,
      Thanks fr dropping by! Yep this is my very first blog and I love it – writing for God :) God bless you too! See you soon! I’ll be back there this April!

  • Ging Sanchez

    Thanks for these very nice and helpful advice. God bless you more Sean.

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Thanks Ging!
      Hope it helps. God bless you!

  • http://www.twitter.com/arch_salm Sally Montejo

    Thanks Sean, I can really see myself on to it, and its bleeds me.How amazing God is.

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Hey Sally,
      God indeed is amazing. Glad that my story inspired you somewhat. Hope to hear more from you!

  • clover chan

    Nice article. Make sense to me. I have really been looking for a reason to let go. Thank you. It helped.

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      So glad it did Clover :) God bless you.

  • RITZ

    This one is very true Sean. I also experienced holding on too tightly on God’s blessing. It has been a struggle and painful experience for me to let go of that very special someone. I am a work in progress now and it is very enlightening to have read your article. Keep it up!

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Thanks Ritz,
      All glory to God :) I’m glad this article has helped shed some light for you.

  • Jason

    would god bless us back that relationship we once held onto tightly. Say we let go of that relationship and put god first would he ever bless it back??

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Jason,
      I don’t know – and I don’t really know. Definitely the possibilities cannot be measured nor envisioned by us. It can happen and it cannot. What we do know is that God wants what’s best for us. If you were eating your dinner and your fried chicken plopped down the floor because it slipped – would you thank God that He protected you from what could’ve been a stomach-ache? You wouldn’t know if the fried chicken had a virus – but even that small thing might’ve been God saving you from food poisoning. Or you could blame God that he made your chicken slip. What’s more important is our heart and reaction to God’s sovereignty in our lives.

  • http://forokraylovers.blogspot.com Jill

    Hi Sean,

    Great post. I recently had to end a relationship (or pseudo-relationship since we never really got to define it early on) and it was really hard because it also cost us our really good and unique friendship. I am praying every day to be able to let go and just let God. But I pray also that in my cloud of hurt and disillusionment I don’t forget how he was also a blessing in the first place. I was humbled and blessed by this post and actually, a lot of your posts. Just started reading today, so keep it up and thank you! :D I am reminded of Job 1:20-12: “The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away, blessed be the name of the Lord.”

    • http://seo-hacker.com Sean

      Hey Jill,
      I’m glad that you have that attitude of trusting God. Job had it too. “Shall we accept good from God, and not trouble?” In all this, Job did not sin in what he said.” – Job 2:10
      There are times in our lives when God will test us. It can be emotionally heart-wrenching but it is meant to make us better. God means good for us. I hope and pray that your friendship would be restored and you will have a God-glorifying story to tell from your experience. Much like what I went through to be able to write this entry.
      God bless you Jill

  • Jasmin

    Wow! This is nice. May the Lord continue to bless you with wonderful insights, bro.

  • http://themissinginfinity.blogspot.com Keith

    When we pray to let this ‘blessing’ go and when it happens, why do we get hurt?

    I let him go. Actually, he broke up with me and without any question, I let him walked away. I know God wanted that relationship to end.and I don’t know why it’s just so hard to deal with this adversity. Thank you for this.. the pain has somehow lessen.

    • Angelyn

      That was very brave, Keith. Sometimes, we really don’t understand why bad things happen to good people. But having faith and believing in the goodness of Jesus will help you through the storm. May you continue to walk with the Lord, Keith as He shows you how beautiful He has planned out your life to be!

  • Nicholas Stickle

    A very astute observation you make in this post Sean. I am personally going through a period of having to let go of a very dear relationship and it is hell but it is one of those things that you must be able to let go for your greater good. I don’t know if I will ever be happy about that fact, but I have come to accept it somewhat. -Sidebar- On Google + You said to introduce ourselves on a comment on one of your blogs. I operate a personal development | internet marketing blog, and am trying to become a student of good SEO practices. It is my hope to someday soon offer some SEO consultation services as well. I have recently purchased the product SEO Zen which creates silo-sites very quickly and they are supposed to be optimized extremely well for instant high rankings. Have you heard of this product and if so what do you think about it?

  • Andree

    Thank you for this post. :)

  • roukia

    it is really the best article i have ever read in my life thank you so much . it is the first time i come across a person who loves God in this way.