No, I’m not talking about your coffee. Our generation today has been hurt and burned by relationships turned sour. It’s not an exaggeration to say that this is a question that a lot of people have in their hearts. Just how do you find the perfect mate?
To think that we would have relationships all figured out 2,000 years after the death of Christ. It’s been so long and still it bothers us on how we can finally find someone – who knocks us off our feet. To find someone who makes us feel complete. Finding the perfect mate is a question that will always be left without a direct, one-line, blueprint answer. But there are guidelines we can use in order to finally find that person our hearts are yearning for.
1. Be the perfect mate
The perfect mate will only want the perfect mate. How can you attract somebody who’s supposed to be ‘perfect’ if you are not ‘perfect’ yourself? If he or she is ‘perfect’ then that person will have wisdom enough to only want what’s best for him/herself.
“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” - Mark 12:31
The ‘perfect’ mate will be wise enough to love him/herself first – and look for the ‘perfect’ mate for him/herself too!
2. Seek God’s Heart
This is probably not the direct answer you’re looking for but it is the best one. Seeking God’s heart deals with a lot of things. And one of those things, is for you to be the person God wants you to be – in order for Him to finally present you to the ‘perfect’ one He has in store for you.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” - Matthew 6:33
There is more to this verse than meets the eye. Seeking God’s kingdom will change your life. And His promise of giving all ‘these’ things to you – that is a promise you’d want to have. It definitely includes a ‘perfect’ mate if that is the desire of your heart.
“Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.” - Psalm 37:4
God is God. He is nothing less. He knows all, He is in control, His will is what will happen. He also loves you and cares about you – and like a Father, He is happy when you are happy. He cares about your desires. But any desire that rises above seeking Him and desiring Him is no longer a good thing. So you have to first seek God’s kingdom in your life – then He will see that you are ready to take on more blessings.
Remember, God’s enemies for your heart are not the evil things of this world. It’s the good and pleasurable things that can take the place of God in your life.
My fiance is not perfect. I know her. And there are things in her that will not be considered perfect by the world’s or other people’s standards. But she’s perfect for me.
Perfect is a choice – it is not the complete mending of someone else to your desires, your attitude and yourself. It is a choice to love someone ‘as is’. And as much imperfections as she has in her, she is perfect for me.
I am an imperfect man. The perfect partner for an imperfect me is an imperfect woman – and our perfection is made complete with our choice to love each other ‘as is’.
Love is a choice. Protect that choice – seal it with commitment.
In this life, you will never be perfect. But there is someone who is perfect for you out there.