Isn’t it a wonder how easily you fall for someone after you’ve just gotten out of a romantic relationship? Have you ever felt like needing someone for you to love and care about and likewise who loves and cares about you right after a breakup or, as the famous Lady Gaga puts it, after a “Bad Romance?”
This entry has been inspired by events that has transpired in my life that impacted me emotionally as well as intellectually.
I’ve never had a girlfriend before
But if you’ve been following my entries lately, you know that I’ve involved myself in a romantic relationship. And in the middle of it all, God told me that it’s just not for me – at least not yet.
And so throughout the time in between that event and today, I’ve been under a flurry of emotional barrage that has consistently tried to penetrate the way I think. In some cases, it got through, and in some, I pondered it carefully. It’s such a powerful mind-changer, this thing called ‘emotion’.
It seems to me that your emotions are still in it’s peak during the time when you just had a relationship that has turned sour. And as King Solomon puts it in his song,
“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” - Song of Solomon 2:7
Unfortunately, when you fall in love, that’s exactly what’s gonna happen.
We awaken love. And with it, we awaken that intricately powerful feeling called the emotion. And it will drive and push you to feed it again after you’ve just broken up with someone who used to feed it.
Please understand, I am not antagonizing emotion in any way. Emotion is exceedingly good and pleasurable and God created it. But when something extremely good and pleasurable is used in a wrong way – without discipline or control, then it becomes an addiction and it will destroy you.
It takes faith and emotional wisdom to deny your emotions when you have awakened love and it has rejected you. That’s why people transfer from relationship to relationship after they have tasted and experienced what emotional love is like.
That’s why there are a lot of broken hearts. Of fleeting romances. Short crafted memories that rapidly expires to heartache and pain. It eats you up.
And it will always scar your emotions.
And being an emotional scar, people can’t see it. But once they’re emotionally involved in your life, they get to see it. To feel it – almost touching it. And you can’t hide it from the ones who are closest to you
Be wise. Be wise over your emotions.
Let God guide you.
Fall in love with Him after a breakup and you’ll realize that you never have to wound yourself again.